Anal sex: How often?

[TV's Frank]

Hi all, just a curiosity question here, wondering how often couples here engage in anal sex and what usually determines the frequency. Is it once a week or once a month? More or less? Which partner usually makes it happen? I just wonder if there is an overall average, especially for those of us here who seem to have affinity for it! :)

[doncalypso]

Hi all, just a curiosity question here, wondering how often couples here engage in anal sex and what usually determines the frequency. Is it once a week or once a month? More or less? Which partner usually makes it happen? I just wonder if there is an overall average, especially for those of us here who seem to have affinity for it! :)

I definitely don't get enough anal sex...

My ex girlfriend would let me take her anally virtually every time she had her period. Sometimes we didn't even need to use lube because she wanted it that badly and could accomodate all of my manhood in her without any problems.

My current girlfriend isn't that big a fan of anal, so we've only had it a total of 5 times (we've been together about 5 months). The good thing is that she thought it feels much better than she would have expected, but I'm frustrated because I haven't had any anal in a while now.

If it were up to me, I'd have anal sex at least once a day.

[TV's Frank]

Well, I certainly can't expect anal once a day in my life.... anal action in the porn I watch for sure, but not actually anal for me in person! :) It is tough since my wife and I do not have sex very often to begin with, that when we do actually have that time it is tough to not make anal the "end" result. I never know how long the next drought might be, so I guess I want to be sure I get some anal action to tide me over, but seriously only if my wife is fine with it. There was a time 2 years ago where she thought was focused a bit too much on anal, so I backed off for many months, almost a year before we tried it again.

[nydeviant]

yeah...sometimes guys need to remember that girls have TWO holes...!

I've had many boyfriends get 'the talk'...as in: 'you know, I love it as much as you do, but I'm starting to feel like that's all you see in me any more...there's other things we can do...'

[Ancient]

.. 'the talk' ..
In my experience your feelings are pretty normal. If the goodies aren't shared at least equally between both holes most girls get uneasy.

I'm obviously not alone in fantasizing about a female partner that does only anal for more than short periods. I wonder if such a person exists?

To get back on topic tho I'm interested in the long term effects of regular anal, say twice a week for a year, or more. Does the sensation change? Is lube still essential? Does it still take time to open up? And that old question, which I've never seen a knowledgeable answer for: does it impact on your butt's 'day' job?

[Jude30]

I'd say we have anal sex about every time we have sex. Now I'm not saying we have anal intercourse every time but there is always some sort of anal play, usually toys, and rimming.

Unfortunatly since my daughter was born the number of times we have sex has dropped dramtically.

[TV's Frank]

I'd say we have anal sex about every time we have sex. Now I'm not saying we have anal intercourse every time but there is always some sort of anal play, usually toys, and rimming.

Unfortunatly since my daughter was born the number of times we have sex has dropped dramtically.

You are correct to include other forms of ass play besides just penetration, since I forgot to mention that as well. Yep, if I can, I always try to include rimming and fingering into the experience, if not penetration, to keep the sensations at a maximum!

[doncalypso]

Based on how things have been going lately with my girlfriend, I have a feeling that anal sex may be something I will never experience anymore---or else it'll be a very rare once-in-a-blue-moon thing.

:(

[ButtPlugLover]

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To get back on topic tho I'm interested in the long term effects of regular anal, say twice a week for a year, or more. Does the sensation change? Is lube still essential? Does it still take time to open up? And that old question, which I've never seen a knowledgeable answer for: does it impact on your butt's 'day' job?

I don't have experience taking it anally on the frequent a basis, except with my toys. Based only on that, I'd say yes the sensation changes, but can return to the initial sensations with a short break in the routine. Lube is ALWAYS essential. Yes, it still takes time to open up every time - though that time can shorten up as the receiver becomes more experienced with HOW to relax and open up. Your digestive tract and colon are still active and still moving things along. Anal sex and play is best done after a regular bowel movement, when the rectum is empty (unless you're into scat, which I'm not). If you have something up your ass long enough, you're going to need to go to the bathroom again - so go! The impact of ass-play on the butt's day job is minimal, or should be, primarily because if you do things right, there should be no tearing of tissues, or abnormal stretching.

[Ancient]

> Toys
Have you tried steel? I have a 5" one I've worn overnight and for up to 8 hours during the day. The limitation is that the shank (i.e. the external part) is poorly designed, with a square edge. Steel's super clean and the weight is great.

I'd love to have one of Julian Snelling's anal pieces (http://www.juliansnelling.fr/) but I don't have an appropriate audience :(

And there's an nJoy on my shopping list.

[ButtPlugLover]

I do have a chromed buttplug and the shank is fine, but the flange is badly designed. There's some more "fluid" steel buttplugs I'd like to acquire someday. Sure, steel is super-clean, but so damn heavy!

[ButtPlugLover]

Oh, and I used to have a small Julian Snelling plug, with a clear crystal center - my butt is too powerful for it. :) I put it in one night and woke up in the morning and my ass had sucked the little guy right in! Well, if I wanted butt-nuggets, I'd buy butt-nuggets (like vibrating eggs and such). So if I get another Snelling plug, it's going to have to be one of the large ones.

[Ancient]

>so damn heavy!
Yummmm

PS Great blog!

[ButtPlugLover]

thank you. I've had some commentors recently who really know their way around buttplugs and have given me some ideas. I mean... a stone buttplug? I'd like to try that!

It's Passover...I wonder if buttplugs are kosher? Certainly my mother's matzoh balls, if properly shaped, could be used as buttpugs - they're solid enough and heavy enough. :( Gimme 2nd Ave delis matzoh balls anytime.

[emily]

I'm sure anal plugs are kosher, so long as they've had no contact with yeast:eek:

[nydeviant]

I mean... a stone buttplug? I'd like to try that!

ask, and you shall receive....

http://www.stockroom.com/Granite-Anal-Plugs-P100.aspx

(an all around great site in general - lots of fun whips & chains!:D )

[TV's Frank]

Just a quick "bump" to the top, for any new members to reply to! :)

[Gspot_biGirl]

there is some sort of anal play - not necessarily full blown - every time we are together. Sometimes a finger while I'm riding him, sometimes a plug in me, and quite a bit here lately I strap it on and let him have it! This past week, he put in a plug and let me ride him for the first time!! I have to say, it was incredible :D

[TV's Frank]

there is some sort of anal play - not necessarily full blown - every time we are together. Sometimes a finger while I'm riding him, sometimes a plug in me, and quite a bit here lately I strap it on and let him have it! This past week, he put in a plug and let me ride him for the first time!! I have to say, it was incredible :D

Sounds awesome, thanks for the info! That last bit is really hot! :)

[anne & eric]

My wife says that I'm a good boy
because I'm wearing my buttplug
everyday, anyway can't stand a day without.

[bttmaaron]

Heres my daily routine:

During our lunch break i go to my partners law office and we usually have a hot session together. We've usually been fantasizing about each other all day so this is the hot, animalistic, f*ck session. I always feel so slutty walking out of there past the secretary, but its a good feeling!

Then we both go back to work, steadily thinking about our last session, getting horny again. Around 7 we'll meet up, and have sex again, he'll have more stamina, but we'll both be tired so we'll usually go for about 30-35 min.

On the weekends, we'll usually hit the clubs up, and his friends have a tendacy to go home with us. This will usually result in a alcohol-induced 3/4some.

So, lets recap, I have anal probably 50-60 times a month. I love having a 35 yr old fb who has a higher sex drive than myself:D !

[Ancient]

Ok ba now that I've finished turning green with envy and my pulse rate has returned to normal, can I ask a practical question? Do you still need foreplay to get ready to receive him, are you pretty much ready to go?