Girls and Guys, should a guy give up his ass if he gets hers?

tmmanus · 10-16-2007, 07:40 PM

My wife and I swap anal sex roles, and we both enjoy it either way. I have to say that being fucked with a strapon has made me more sensitive and better at giving it to her, plus she likes that we can have the role reversal.

Girls, do you feel that if you let a guy have your ass you should have his as well with a strapon or a dildo (at least once), or is it ok if it just isn't his thing?

Guys, do you feel obliged to let your girl have a go at your ass (at least once) if she lets you have hers?

Mikxm · 10-16-2007, 08:29 PM

I think it should go both ways yeah. Equal playtime each way

candygirl101 · 10-16-2007, 08:54 PM

Absolutely! Any kind of play should go both ways, it is only fair after all.

CG101

rdynwaitin · 10-16-2007, 10:50 PM

I would be willing to let her have mine IF she would give hers up.
I think one should at least give it up once if their with a partner they trust

Zombunnie · 10-17-2007, 02:57 AM

My husband and I did the whole "well, I let you have mine, now it's your turn!" thing early on. In fact, the night after trying anal for the first time, I was using toys on him. It turns out he loves it

I think, in general, it's a good idea for people to be open minded, and willing to try things that they are curious about, and if you are going to be playing with someone's ass it's a good idea to have knowledge from the other side.

Still, some people have hard limits, and that's fine too. But the most common arguments I hear from guys who don't want to try what they are asking their partners for are: a) I'm not gay! (lucky for you you're having sex with a woman then!) b) I'm just not into it (she might not be either, but plenty of girls give it a whirl and love it!) Personally, I have to be in the right mood and mindset for anal, so we don't do it that often and it's no big deal. Strapon sex is a more common occurrence.

Jude30 · 10-17-2007, 07:12 AM

If they want to that's fine, but I don't agree that it should be one gets it only if the other does it. If you're not doing it to explore your sexuality and find pleasure, only so you can "tag your partners ass" then you shouldn't be doing it.

Tessa · 10-17-2007, 08:14 AM

I don't think anyone should feel they "have to" do anything.

My current partner is the first person I've let have anal sex with me in almost 20 yrs. I tried it once as a youth and it was a horrible experience, up until now, no one was ever able to convince me to try again, no matter what was said, the gates were closed, end of subject.

Perhaps because I'm now older, wiser and have a much, much more accomplished lover, anal sex is extremely pleasurable, and has become a part of our lovemaking.

However, except for tongue and light finger play, my partner has no interest in being on the receiving end. Perhaps one day he'll change his mind, but that's entirely up to him, as it was with me.

I don't feel that because I "gave it up" that he has to as well. Granted, I'd love to try being the giver, and am more than open to the idea, but its just not his thing and I respect that.

I'm not a man, but I suspect that many heterosexual men, even if curious about receiving anal sex, can't mentally get past the "its a homosexual thing to do". My gut tells me that's what my man's hang up is, even if he won't say it out loud.

JMHO

dutch · 10-17-2007, 10:54 AM

nobody should be coerced to do anything they don't want to.

Zombunnie · 10-17-2007, 03:40 PM

I agree. It's wonderful for people to try things that their partners are into, and ideally everyone would be comfortable with exactly what their loved-one is interested in, but the world rarely works that way. Everyone has a right to their hard limits, and everyone has a right to say no.

I'm glad my husband's hard limits didn't include ass play though

Toothpick_Vic · 10-23-2007, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by tmmanus

I have to say that being fucked with a strapon has made me more sensitive and better at giving it to her, plus she likes that we can have the role reversal.

Agree with the others who have said no one should feel they have to do anything, however I reccommend receiving anal to anyone because of a. it feels amazing, and b. because as you said, you learn a lot about what it may be like for her/him when they receive and learn for future times when you're giving to be better and have better awareness of what she/he may be going through.

10-16-2007, 07:40 PM	#1
tmmanus Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2	Girls and Guys, should a guy give up his ass if he gets hers? My wife and I swap anal sex roles, and we both enjoy it either way. I have to say that being fucked with a strapon has made me more sensitive and better at giving it to her, plus she likes that we can have the role reversal. Girls, do you feel that if you let a guy have your ass you should have his as well with a strapon or a dildo (at least once), or is it ok if it just isn't his thing? Guys, do you feel obliged to let your girl have a go at your ass (at least once) if she lets you have hers?

10-17-2007, 10:54 AM	#8
dutch Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 460	It should go both ways, butt.... nobody should be coerced to do anything they don't want to.

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10-16-2007, 08:29 PM	#2
Mikxm Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 2	I think it should go both ways yeah. Equal playtime each way

10-16-2007, 08:54 PM	#3
candygirl101 Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Oregon Posts: 57	Absolutely! Any kind of play should go both ways, it is only fair after all. CG101

10-16-2007, 10:50 PM	#4
rdynwaitin Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 12	I would be willing to let her have mine IF she would give hers up. I think one should at least give it up once if their with a partner they trust

10-17-2007, 02:57 AM	#5
Zombunnie Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 18	My husband and I did the whole "well, I let you have mine, now it's your turn!" thing early on. In fact, the night after trying anal for the first time, I was using toys on him. It turns out he loves it I think, in general, it's a good idea for people to be open minded, and willing to try things that they are curious about, and if you are going to be playing with someone's ass it's a good idea to have knowledge from the other side. Still, some people have hard limits, and that's fine too. But the most common arguments I hear from guys who don't want to try what they are asking their partners for are: a) I'm not gay! (lucky for you you're having sex with a woman then!) b) I'm just not into it (she might not be either, but plenty of girls give it a whirl and love it!) Personally, I have to be in the right mood and mindset for anal, so we don't do it that often and it's no big deal. Strapon sex is a more common occurrence.

10-17-2007, 07:12 AM	#6
Jude30 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 170	If they want to that's fine, but I don't agree that it should be one gets it only if the other does it. If you're not doing it to explore your sexuality and find pleasure, only so you can "tag your partners ass" then you shouldn't be doing it.

10-17-2007, 08:14 AM	#7
Tessa Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 66	I don't think anyone should feel they "have to" do anything. My current partner is the first person I've let have anal sex with me in almost 20 yrs. I tried it once as a youth and it was a horrible experience, up until now, no one was ever able to convince me to try again, no matter what was said, the gates were closed, end of subject. Perhaps because I'm now older, wiser and have a much, much more accomplished lover, anal sex is extremely pleasurable, and has become a part of our lovemaking. However, except for tongue and light finger play, my partner has no interest in being on the receiving end. Perhaps one day he'll change his mind, but that's entirely up to him, as it was with me. I don't feel that because I "gave it up" that he has to as well. Granted, I'd love to try being the giver, and am more than open to the idea, but its just not his thing and I respect that. I'm not a man, but I suspect that many heterosexual men, even if curious about receiving anal sex, can't mentally get past the "its a homosexual thing to do". My gut tells me that's what my man's hang up is, even if he won't say it out loud. JMHO

10-17-2007, 03:40 PM	#9
Zombunnie Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 18	I agree. It's wonderful for people to try things that their partners are into, and ideally everyone would be comfortable with exactly what their loved-one is interested in, but the world rarely works that way. Everyone has a right to their hard limits, and everyone has a right to say no. I'm glad my husband's hard limits didn't include ass play though